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Thomas From Portland

We met about twelve years ago in the Midwest. Honestly, I had never really thought I would get married. But I fell in love and we wanted to be a family – and that means getting married. Actually, we’ve gotten married three times. That is, we’ve had three wedding ceremonies.

 The first was in India with my wife’s family there. It was a big Hindu ceremony. And over the next week, every time we entered the home of another family member, there would be a short ceremony honoring our marriage.

The second wedding was in Brooklyn, in front of friends and family. People came from all over the country to join us as we made a lifetime commitment, in a ceremony officiated by a close friend.

The third ceremony was in a church office, with just the two of us saying our vows before a pastor who signed our wedding license.

Gay or straight, we all marry for similar reasons – to stand before friends and family and make a public promise to the person we love. I’ve been lucky enough to do this three times with the woman I love. And I would never want to deny this for anyone else.

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David From Portland

Stephen and I were 50 years old when we met. Both of us had always lived alone, and we had created good lives for ourselves -- we each had friends, careers and interests that we enjoyed. Neither of us believed that falling in love, declaring a commitment, and building a life with someone was likely to happen.

We met a gay square dance class. After a couple of months of quiet chats between dances, Stephen asked if I’d like to meet him for a burger. It had been so long since I last dated, it didn’t occur to me that he was asking me out. Halfway through the meal it dawned on me, “OH MY GOD. THIS IS A DATE,” which I blurted out at the table. Stephen confirmed that, indeed, it was a date, and we continued our courtship.

We moved in together approximately a year later. Then we combined our assets. Then we filed our registered domestic partnership. Then we changed our names through the courts. Then we were married in Christian fellowship at my church, Bridgeport United Church of Christ. (Yes, we have many anniversaries.) Stephen and I are married in the eyes of my God, my family, and my church. Civil marriage matters because it reduces to a matter of opinion the difference between my marriage and the marriage of anyone else. I can live with a difference of opinion. Can't you?

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Daniel From Aloha

Before I met Marcos, my life was a series of inconsistencies and contradictions. I wanted to be what others thought I should be by pursuing what I thought was the "American Dream" instead of following my heart and connecting with someone in a way that acknowledges who I am at the core of my being.

When Marcos and my paths crossed this past May 2010, my life quickly transformed into one of strength, courage, direction and love. As our relationship has grown, our love has blossomed into a commitment to cherish and care and support each other with whatever sacrifice it takes to ease the others struggles and burdens.

Life has taken on a beautiful "resonance" for both of us. We can confidently face the world now as a "team" and take on any obstacle life "throws" at us. Marriage equality is one such "obstacle" for us. The love that binds Marcos and me as a committed couple deserves the honor and recognition that opposite sex couples enjoy. The natural attraction an opposite sex couple has for each other is no different than the natural attraction same sex couples have for each other and the desire to marry as an outward expression of that commitment is no less important to us as it is to those who already enjoy this privilege in our society.

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Tash From Portland

Elana and I met at PSU in early 2009. We were in a few of the same classes and I quickly developed a big crush on her.

We got to know each other over a few weeks and one night we went out on our first “date.” While I fumbled for words about my feelings, she very directly told me about the butterflies in her stomach and then asked to kiss me. I learned that this no-nonsense forwardness was her style, and today we are more in love than ever.

We moved in together about a year into our partnership. In the warmer months we garden, in the cooler ones we read and watch Netflix. Neither of us has been deeply invested in the idea of getting married – heck, the word “partner” was difficult to swallow at first – but we are committed to one another, and we know that many of our loved ones with similar commitments are unable to access marriage simply because of their genders.

As a trans person I know that my love for Elana does not change whether there’s an “F” or an “M” on my ID, but the way our love is recognized does. We believe that as long as marriage exists, it shouldn’t be denied to anyone.

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Jennifer From Portland

I have been lucky to have shared my life with the most amazing woman for the past 6 years. Although I grew up believing that I would never get married, Nikki has changed my mind completely on this. I can't imagine my life without her and want to have the same opportunity as straight couples to stand up in front of the people I care most about and bind myself to her.
 
As we plan our wedding I am continually reminded of the rights we do not yet have, although I live with the hope that we achieve equality soon. Nikki and I were in Hawaii on vacation when she surprised me with a gift; a CD she had put together of songs with meaning to us as a couple. As we drove around the island that day, it seemed to me that each song was more perfect than the one before.
 
 Late in the day, she abruptly turned off the CD. When I protested, she told me she was trying to concentrate on finding where we were going. I thought it was odd as we didn't have anywhere specific to go and we were on "island time," but the look on her face told me to let it go. A few minutes later, she pulled to the side of the road overlooking the water. The sun was just setting and she told me that the CD had one more song and she would like to play it for me now. I asked her if I knew the artist and she said, "Yes, it's your favorite." From the first note, I knew that it was my artist.
 
As I listened to the beautiful words she had written and recorded for me, I knew I was the luckiest girl. The third verse of her song asked me to say yes to the question she was about to ask. At that point, she pulled out a ring and proposed. Needless to say, yes was a very easy answer to give.

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Ray and Brittany from Portland

First I would like to say and too often we forget, thank you to all the people before me who fought just to be able to walk down the street holding hands with the one you love. The ones who had to hide in bars just to finally have a minute to be who they truly were. Without all they had to endure we wouldn't be as close to the ultimate day where it’s all the same across the board for every couple to get married.

I am 26 and a trans man, who was fortunate to actually marry my high school sweetheart. Through most of our relationship I  knew that no matter what kind of commitment we made to each other we would probably not have the rights that make every couple in love safe and secure when it matters the most. I will continue to fight for marriage equality because the only way laws and rights should be is the same for everyone, all the time.

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Ryan from Happy Valley

When I was a small child I was told that everybody had two empty spaces in their heart. One was where only God fit perfectly, and the other was a space where another person would fit, and only the person whom you were meant to be with forever would fit just right. When I met my wife, Megan, almost two years ago it didn’t take long before I knew she filled that space perfectly.

She continually teaches me about the beauty this world has to offer, about God, and about myself. For the first time marriage didn’t seem far in the distance, but we both knew it wouldn’t come easily. Although neither of us identify as gay, the inability for same-sex couples to marry in Oregon deeply affects our relationship too. Despite my male identity and presentation, the government still sees us as a same-sex couple, and thus denies us the right to marry, because I was designated female at birth and so was my wife. The lack of recognition of our relationship does not affect the depth of our commitment.  

The state defines our relationship as illegitimate, this gives others the license not only to invalidate our relationship, but my identity as well. Although the sex marker on my birth certificate will be changed someday, and we will then be able to legally marry, we want the state to recognize that our commitment and our relationship now. Spiritually we are already married, but we hope to be legally married soon.

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Tracey From Happy Valley

I have always wanted to be the perfect wife and have a storybook marriage and family. My biggest dream is finding the person that I get to share my life with. As a senior in high school the idea of marriage and even love is a dream to me but someday it will be a reality. I feel like marriage is something that really matters for everyone. I think that it really is something that everyone should be able to experience someday if they want to.

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Debra from Portland

I met Liz 11 years ago. We fell in love, I moved to Portland from Chicago and we bought a house. We bought "wedding" rings for each other and registered for the domestic registry. We love each other every much even after lots of hard times, like losing our house. I left when things were at our hardest and I regret that. But that action really changed us for the better.

We remained good friends for about 7 years. We were there for each other still. We had lunch once a week, every week...we cared for each other when things were hard. When Liz began to have serious memory problems and had great difficulty walking due to a knee issue, I helped her with getting through what was happening. I bought her a cane. She said she felt like an old lady at 53. I took her to doctor and therapist appointments, to get her medications, to shopping for groceries and so on. I called her at work to make sure she was taking her medications. I cared for her as if we were still partners even though we lived many miles apart.

One day at work, she texted me, "I love you." I was both shocked and happy! Now we are looking for a place to live together. We have both grown. She is still my beloved partner even after all these crazy years. My daughters accept us and the rest of my immediate family does too. I am so happy that Liz and I will be together as a married couple again. The sad part is that we really can't get married like other couples can. We feel like second-class citizens. All we can do is renew our commitment to each other by registering for the new domestic registry in Portland. We should be able to be married and have the state AND federal government recognize our union.


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Meg from Portland

On the first day of our senior year in high school, as I nervously introduced myself to her, I never imagined that she was the one I would someday commit my life to. Having a wedding was always part of my “plan.” Three summers ago, the vision came true, under a homemade arbor with nearly 100 of our family and friends surrounding us in support and love. It was no doubt the very sweetest day of my life. It was my wedding day, I was the glowing bride, and I was “marrying” the woman I loved. Nobody could tell me otherwise.

Our love and life together seems just so normal to me. We are proud new homeowners, we’re those lesbians with too many pets, and someday, we plan to become moms. When it comes to love and happiness, I have all of the elements of a traditional marriage. But when it comes to the rights and legal status granted to married couples, we lag so very far behind. As a young, gay American - I have come of age learning that there are a lot of things I need to fight for. In the movement for equality, marriage is considered a right – and I don’t disagree. But within this work, there are even more fundamental rights we must work toward – the right to love whomever, the right to be accepted, and the right to be supported by one’s own family. There are so many people who struggle to attain even these most basic rights, and that is a reality I know exists, but can hardly conceive.

Even without the right to marry, there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about how truly lucky I am to be spending my life with this amazing woman, and to have a family who supports us fully. For me, marriage is indeed a right. But it is also a privilege. Someday, I can only hope that I am privileged enough to become Tara’s legal wife.

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Kyle from Portland

Kyle and KaitlinUntil I met my partner, Kaitlin I never gave much thought to marriage. I long wanted to find that special someone, settle down and have kids. Getting married never factored into that plan, because as a lesbian it just didn’t seem possible.

I’ve seen marriage denied to gay and lesbian couples despite their lasting commitment. After Kaitlin and I declared our love and built a life together, I realized that we are already doing the everyday work of marriage. Similar to every couple, we have our ups and downs, we celebrate the great times and we support each other through the difficult times. Sometimes we work together like clockwork and sometimes we fight over household chores, like who is going to take out the garbage.

We have dreams of where we want our life to take us and we really want to start a family in the near future. In our hearts we know we will always be there for each other. We look to the day when we can join in civil marriage so that it’s clear to everyone what we mean to each other, that we can be counted on to protect and take care of each other forever, and so we can have others hold us to that promise. After all, marriage says commitment like no other word can.

Kyle from Portland

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Mary from Portland

Mary and SaraMy partner Sara and I will celebrate our 8th anniversary this Valentine’s Day. Over time, we’ve built a loving relationship that supports us through both the smooth and rough patches in life. This fall, we publicly declared our commitment in front of our family and friends, and we hope to start a family in the near future. We have made a lifetime commitment to one another, and dream of the day that our love and commitment will be recognized through civil marriage.

Mary from Portland

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Julie from Sweet Home, OR

Julie and Melissa cards from the heartMelissa and I met 2 years ago. We have our ups and downs like any couple, but so far we've had many more ups than downs. She definitely is the best thing that ever happened to me - and to my kids who now think of her as "Mama Lissa".We registered our Domestic Partnership 12-10-10.

We both look forward to a day when we can have a 'real' wedding, And participate in that sacred tradition of life-long commitment to one another, which is recognized by the law of our land and not contingent on which State we live in.

Julie from Sweet Home, OR

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Kodey from Portland

Kodey from Portland Cards from the HeartSo I’m single right now. And when I first heard of the Valentine’s Day stories about commitment and marriage, I didn’t think those stories applied to me. After all, I don’t have a partner, or even a boyfriend. But then I was told these stories are about what love means to us, and I figured even us single folks have something to add.

For the record, I am proud and happy to be a single trannie in the world! Being single is a great thing. But, I also dream of the day that I find “the one” who will be right for me. And even though I’ve never met him, in my dreams I know him quite well. He’s kind and smart and wonderful. He works hard and he loves me, just for me. And no matter how hard life gets or how discouraged I become, I hold onto that dream because I believe in love. Above all else, I believe in love.

From my limited time on Earth I have learned that love is the Alpha, the Omega, the beginning, middle and end. To love and be loved. Nothing is greater or more important than that. And one day, in the hopefully not too far future, I’ll meet him in the real world. Maybe we’ll both be walking around downtown and we’ll bump into each other, just like in the movies! And when I meet him, I want to know that I have the same opportunity that my parents had and that my friends have, to declare that love for all the world to see. To be married. To be married, in front of God, the Universe, and all my loved ones. To have our love be recognized and celebrated. I hope that happens one day, in the not too far future.

Kodey from Portland

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Jennifer, Eugene OR

Jennifer and KateMy partner, Kate, and I fell in love 29 years ago. We plunged into motherhood together -- I birthed our first child, Kate our second, using different known donors. The more unabashedly we shared our story, our family, and our love, the more we were accepted. Most people, after all, can understand the experience of love and the strength of a family bond. Our kids are grown now: 23 and 27.

Kate and I are still happy together and our family is very close. In our hearts, we are married. But we have always dreamed that someday we will be able to marry legally and be recognized publicly as each other's wives. We all deserve that opportunity.

Jennifer, Eugene OR

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Mike From Portland

Mike from Portland Cards from the heartAs a gay man, I never really thought that I'd see a time when marriage would be a possibility for me. Even now, I'm not very interested in marriage for myself; heck, I'm not even dating anyone seriously, and I'm pretty happy being single. However, the truth remains that I am a closeted hopeless romantic. I cry at weddings and sappy love songs. If I were to start dating a guy and we fall in love, I want to know that we could live our lives together and be able to take care of each other. I'm a Scorpio, and Scorpios are fiercely protective of the people they care about, so you'd better not even think about telling me I can't take care of the people I love.

Ultimately, I think we need to transform our society and economic relationships so that marriage won't even be necessary, but as it stands, we have to live in the world we're in, and marriage is the best way to make sure we can care for our partners. To deny that is to deny the real material world we live in. We can also use marriage as a way to end homophobia. This is one way to ensure that over time peoples' attitudes about LGBT people will change for the better: by showing that our relationships are not all that different from the relationships straight people have.

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Bev and Ruth from Portland

Bev and RuthRuth and I had been together for twenty-six years when we married in San Francisco in 2004.

The marriage lasted legally for three months but still remains in our hearts as we celebrate thirty-three years together here in Portland. We have declared ourselves domestic partners four times, whenever it becomes available to us. When we married, our friends – straight and gay – celebrated with us.

When it was taken from us, our friends grieved, ranted and apologized to us. A dear friend took us aside after her wedding ceremony and presented us with her bouquet – and a heartfelt rant of the unfairness, the inequality and the shame she felt in her privilege to wed. Recently, another good friend apologized in a similar manner. We take it as a sign of changes to come. We are married, as always, because of our love of commitment to each other. We are still second-class citizens because our love remains an act of civil disobedience. We hope to see that change within our lifetime.

Bev and Ruth from Portland.

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Josh From Hillsboro

When my mom married my stepfather, she asked me to write a blessing and recite it as part of their ceremony.

I wrote the words, 'Love without condition, Love without vice. Love is beautiful; Love will suffice. Love without fear, Love without care. Love is breathtaking; nothing can compare. Love is kind, Love is true. Love is a blessing; one I happily bestow upon you.'

I could barely finish the last part when I was reading it to my mom because I was so happy for her that I was crying. Her eyes started welling up long before mine did and I could tell she was the happiest she had been in a very long time. I just hope that one day everyone can have a day like that; one where family and friends gather to celebrate you, your love, and your partner. On that day, love is the only thing that matters. 

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Frankie From Portland

When I was 4 years old I used to watch my sister walk the next door neighbor boy to school every day. My mom asked me one day "Why are you waking up so early too look outside?" I told her "see that boy walking with Roxanne (my sister)? I'm going to marry him one day!" And she told me "Mijo boys don't marry other boys!" And my reply was "Why not?" And till this day I ask why not?

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Marcel From Portland

True love is being happier with what's on the inside than what's on the outside.

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Manu From Portland

 Hello, my name is Manu and this is my opinion about same sex marriage.


I think everyone should be able to get married, no matter their sexual orientation. Everyone should be seen equally and be able to marry whomever they love. "No government has the right to tell it's citizens when or whom to love. The only queer people are those who don't love anybody." - Rita Mae Brown

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Jesse From Portland

I've only been in love once in my life and it was the best thing that could have ever happened. Even though it didn't work out in the long run, I wouldn't take it back for the world. That experience taught me that love is never conventional -- it makes you crazy! While being delusional, however, you are the happiest, most complete person.

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Michael From Portland

“If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not loved, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” I Corinthians 13: 3

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Fernando From Portland

Marriage is love. We all experience love, no matter the gender or orientation. How can someone try and stop you from moving on with a relationship. Marriage is love… let me be in love!

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Jayme From Portland

My story begins with a middle school crush. The guy's name was Levi and I think he liked me too. We sent out Valentine's Day cards to each other and the one I received was him asking me on a date. That was so awesome! I think it was meant to be.

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Doug From Portland

Love is the essence of life! The joining of two human beings, soul to soul, body to body, two individuals becoming one entity, a never ending harmony and a love story for all!

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Daniel From Portland

My name is Daniel and marriage matters to me.

A person should be able to marry the person they love. It does not matter if the person you love is a guy or girl or what their sexual orientation is; love is love and nobody has the right to tell another who they can or cannot love.

Right now I'm just getting into a new relationship with an amazing guy who I met about a month ago and he might be the one who I want to marry; who knows? Whoever the man I end up wanting to spend the rest of my life with may be, having the ability to announce it to the world as marriage will mean everything.

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Peggy From Portland

We met 25 years ago in our shared workplace. In less than a year, it was clear that I was in love. When I reached out, I was met halfway by a woman who had been waiting for a sign from me. Now we have children and grandchildren living in Portland. We have had a commitment service, because UU's have been doing that for many years. When it was possible, we married. When 36 was passed our eldest granddaughter cried because her grandmas could not be married. We feel married/committed for life.

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Jett From Eugene

A very close family friend and spiritual adviser once told me that everyone carries with them at least one piece to someone else's puzzle. I never believed this until I met my boyfriend. After we met and started dating I couldn’t help but think about what my Rabbi said; if each one of us has a piece to someone else's puzzle, I know for certain that David holds that piece and I hold his. We want to start our lives together and see what that the future holds.

 I want to wake up every day seeing that smile I saw that fateful night. I know in dreams and in love there are no impossibilities, but in reality there are impossibilities, like the fact that we can’t get married. We want to make the impossible possible. Marriage says love like no other word can.

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Grey From Portland

I always knew that I wanted to get married one day. Deep commitment comes naturally to me, but I wanted to make sure I found the right person. When I met Darwin, it didn't take me long to realize that this was the one. I proposed after two weeks, and we never looked back.

Three years later our marriage has seen its share of ups and downs, and we've learned that we can get through anything together. We already find ourselves taking on a parental role toward our younger friends, even as we are still new to adulthood ourselves.

I think, when it comes down to it, love is strength of the heart and soul. Things that would be struggles alone feel easier when you can do them together, and each challenge we face as wives and partners strengthens our bond. We renew each other. As our matching tattooed wedding bands can attest, we're in this for the long haul. Our love makes us and our community stronger, and that is what marriage is all about

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Eli From Portland

My relationship with Carmen has been unconventional from the start. We differ in so many ways, that sometimes I'm sure our friends wonder how we could ever get along, let alone work as a couple. She's Christian, I'm Jewish. She likes Justin Bieber and I would rather listen to Feliz Navidad on repeat. We both like to lead, and neither likes to be lead.

We know it'll take a lot of time, love, dedication and support from our friends, family and communities, but we hope to someday be able to get married.

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Amalia From Portland

I am a heterosexual woman and I met my husband nine years ago, when I came to the United States as an international graduate student (I am from Italy). After we got married, we had to go through the many and costly hurdles of having to prove the validity of our marriage in order for me to obtain a green card. Marriage wasn't as simple for us as it is for other heterosexual Americans, but in the end we did manage to live together as husband and wife.

 It makes me absolutely sick to my heart to think about those gays and lesbians from other countries who fall in love with American citizens and will never be allowed to live here with their partners because there's no possibility for them to obtain a green card through marriage! I think this is yet another facet of marriage inequality in America that is rarely addressed.

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Karra From Vancouver

Marriage is the ultimate commitment to love, support, cherish, and celebrate together. Why should we deny anyone that joy?

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Nora From Eugene

Love is one person honoring, respecting, and watching out for the well being of another human being, selflessness and unconditional love.

(This is my sister’s story) When my sister came out to me I was ashamed and embarrassed but after meeting Eddy I was instantly in love with her. The way these two watch-out for each other and take care of each other is something I have never seen in any kind of relationship, heterosexual or homosexual. I never saw my sister happy in her marriage to her husband but now she glows with radiance!

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Kelsey From Eugene

When I think about love I feel the weight of my boyfriend’s hand in mine, where it has been for the past 4 years.

 My parents raised us with the golden rule; treating others the way I’d like to be treated. With that said, my childhood friend Sophia and I have been planning our weddings since we were little girls playing dress up. When I was in high school, Sophia came out to me as a lesbian. I felt proud and honored by her admission. Nothing has changed in our friendship. I still hope to marry the person I love; however, Ryan and I have vowed to not get married until she can. Even though my parents are very religious and continue to pressure us to get married, they agree with my decision to not get married until Sophia can. They support her like a second daughter, and want her to have the same rights as I do.

 I look forward to the day when my best friend has the same freedom to marry the person she loves. After all, marriage is one of the few times where peoples reveal their hearts and make a public promise of love and responsibility for each other.

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Josh From Portland

As a 22 year old, I can’t think of any reason why I’d want to be married right now; it’s far too much of a commitment. That’s exactly the point, though, isn’t it? Isn’t marriage the biggest commitment one can make to another? Doesn’t it mean that you and your spouse, partner, companion, or whatever you want to call each other, are committed to love, care for, and be there for each other for the rest of your lives?

By not allowing me the right to marry, people who vote against marriage equality are saying that I’m a second class citizen. I'm not. They are saying that my love isn’t the same as theirs. It is. They are saying that I, and others like me, don’t deserve the right to live a happy, normal life. Well, guess what, we do. If I were to fall in love today, I would have to ask the love of my life to ‘civil union’ me or to be my ‘domestic partner,’ not my husband; this is not fair. I hope that when I find the man who I want to spend the rest of my life with, things will be different.

Until then, however, I will continue to fight for an end of discrimination, my right to marry, and more importantly my right to love.

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Savante From Portland

Love means having someone that will testify of your life and all it entails when you’re no longer in this temporal world to do so yourself. Love is having someone to think highly, care deeply, and want the best only for you because something about you makes them a better person or desire to be near them.


I met my partner walking down the street one evening. Marriage matters to us because we pay for it with our life, blood, and energy; and because we can't imagine not being and doing with each other the completeness that hetero and male & female couples get to enjoy. The most important thing that I think love is about is someone that loves you because you’re exactly everything that they have ever wanted in life and more.  

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Ben

Marriage equality is important to me because I believe love is something limitless and beautiful, and no matter who you love you should be able to experience something as permanent and binding as marriage. If a man can love another man then why should there be a limit to what they can achieve together? I believe it’s not a choice that a government can make; it’s a choice within the relationship and that person whether or not they can get married.

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Jayme From Portland

Hi my name is Jayme and this is my opinion on same sex marriage and why it matters.

 The reason I think that same sex marriage is important is because you should have the right to marry whomever you want no matter the sex. I also feel that it will not only benefit but promote longer and steadier relationships. 

My dads have a domestic partnership and it has worked out fine, but I would love for them to get officially marred. They have been together for 22 years now, with 5 children. I'm lucky to have them as my parents. They told me no matter how you are or how you become we will always stand behind you 100 and 10 percent.

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Lucinda From Florence

Love is a precious gift of God, a sweet and deep connection between two souls. It is tender affection, gentle caring, and a bond that defies description.

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Alayna and Sacha From Portland

Ten years ago, I met the love of my life.

Since then, although we've had ups and downs just like everyone has, our relationship has developed into the most wonderful thing that ever happened to both of us. We would love to add to our family by becoming legally married, as much for our kids (ages 4, 2, and due in April) as for ourselves. The past ten years have been amazing, and we hope to add marriage to our list of accomplishments in the next ten years!

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Kori From Eugene

It took us nearly a half-century to find each other but all of these realities actually spurred us both to staying open to finding true, lasting, committed love.


My partner Teri and I have been together for 2 years. This August, we are planning a ceremony and celebration to affirm our commitment to each other. I call it a wedding but we are both aware that we cannot lay full, legal claim to either the moniker or the rights and benefits that heterosexual marriage provides.


 I cannot imagine my life without her and our goals, dreams, and plans have become intentionally combined. As Teri said recently, “This is our family now.” Our commitment is deep and gooey and unlike anything I have felt before—we just fit. We are hopeful, however, and we are not letting the inequality keep us from defining our partnership or making the commitment to spending the rest of our lives together.
Meanwhile, all I need to know is that Teri is the gal for me—we share love and commitment not only for each other, but also for our combined five adult children, friends, extended family, and the community we both work so hard to improve

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Madison From Portland

 I met my partner 6 years ago through "Just Out". I was an "out late" in life lesbian who wasn't quite "out" with my family. Falling in love with Angela was the push I needed to finally share all of myself with those I loved. What a gift! We had been together a year when we decided to file for our Domestic Partnership. We are not asking for special rights, only equal rights. We are asking to have our completely invested and beautiful relationship validated through the sanctity of Marriage and all it encompasses.

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Abigail, Portland, OR

As a student and as a young polyamorous person, marriage certainly isn't my top priority. However, I recognize for others it is, and i recognize that this movement goes far beyond marriage. It is about equality, about the ideals America was founded on, it is about compassion and allowing others to fulfill their dreams. My story isn't about tying the knot, it's about having the ability to do so, regardless of who I love. Perhaps in the future I will meet the woman of my dreams and want to walk down the aisle with her, if that day does come I desire to have the ability to do so. Love is the most pure, wonderful thing in the world, why would anyone want to put constraints on it? Marriage equality matters to me because love matters to me, and more importantly than that, because people matter to me.

Abigail, Portland, OR

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Peggy, Portland OR

Sally and I started dating in 1990 and had a commitment ceremony at Ramona Falls in 1993. We are still together after 21 years, raising a beautiful spirited 14 year old daughter. Our relationship has changed and grown in many ways over the years. We remain deeply in love and committed to each other and our family. We plan to be legally married when it has truly the same standing, recognition, and legal implications as straight marriage.

Peggy, Portland OR

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